News 
 Local News 
 News 
 General 
 Mothers looking for answers after losing babies 

Mothers looking for answers after losing babies

11 Mar, 2010 08:51 AM
SUE never wanted to give her baby away.

But like so many other pregnant, unwed teenage girls in the 1960s, she had no choice.

Now 58, Sue has spent most of her live grieving for her baby girl lost through the “wicked” government-sanctioned adoption policies of the 1950s, 60s, 70s and 80s.

But with the help of Mandurah MLA David Templeman, who listened to the local woman’s story and agreed to help, Sue, along with thousands of other women forced to give up their babies, looks set to receive a State Government apology.

Following an emotive speech by Mr Templeman in State Parliament last month which detailed Sue’s heartbreaking account of the birth and loss of her daughter, the local MLA called on the government to acknowledge and apologise for this “great wrong”.

Health Minister Kim Hames announced last week that an apology was being prepared.

Dr Hames said he would read the apology in State Parliament and wanted to see a memorial created for families affected by the “cruel” welfare practices of the 1940s-1980s.

And while acknowledgment of the gross injustices of illegal and forced adoption will be welcomed by Sue, nothing will erase the years of grief and pain she has felt since having her first-born taken from her.

“My baby was born on July 16, 1968, and that moment has haunted me ever since,” Sue said.

“My beautiful little baby was born and I heard her terrified cries for me, her mother.

“They covered my face to prevent me seeing her and drugged me into oblivion.”

Sue said a “veil of secrecy, shame and toxic humiliation” descended on her life from that point on and even now she says her “baby’s cries are just as vivid today as they were back then”.

“My empty arms still ache from the inability to respond, to hold and protect her,” Sue said.

“I live daily with a frozen tension in my body, rising to panic at times at my inability to satisfy my maternal instinct to take care of her and answer her cry.

“This is in a constant holding pattern together with a profound sense of loss, grief, frustration and anger.

“We were the sole legal guardians of our children and the authorities had no right to deprive us of seeing, touching and holding our babies.”

What Sue finds most difficult to accept though is the “perpetuation of the lie” that mothers willingly gave their babies to strangers and that their babies were unwanted.

“There was no consultation, no preparation,” she said.

“Our kids need to know it wasn’t their mothers who gave them away.

“None of us gave our babies away willingly.

“We were young and vulnerable and up against a system too powerful to fight.”

Mr Templeman agreed and said he used his parliamentary speech to expose what he referred to as a “great injustice” and encourage the Government to expedite the apology process in consultation with victims of the then-governments’ brutal adoption policies.

“All I want is for these women to have their truth told,” he said.

“Let’s expose this and acknowledge it was wrong.”

Sue said she was grateful for Mr Templeman’s help and appreciated the time he had spent listening to her story.

“He gave us a voice,” she said.

“A voice that had been denied and suppressed for so long.”

Sue encouraged other women who went through similar trauma to contact Mr Templeman and be a part of the government’s acknowledgement and apology process.

Print
Increase Text Size
Decrease Text Size
Page:
single page

comments


Date: Newest first | Oldest first
My infant son was taken from me by the staff at the now demolished St. Margaret's Hospital, Darlinghurst, NSW on the 19th July 1972.

I too was not married to the father of my son.

We were treated like lepers, isolated in homes for unmarreid mothers.

Our medical files marked (without our knowledge, permission of informed consent )with code BFA(baby for adoption).

From the moment we entered maternity wards the objective of the hospitial staff was to separate us from our new born infants and give them to strangers to parent(who were on "waiting lists" to be given an infant that did not belong to them).we had no help, no support.we and our children have suffered immesurable pain and loneliness because of these Australia wide illegal/unethical adoption practices.

My thoughts and thanks are with Sue for so bravely bringing the issue into the public domain.

I wish her peace and happiness and happy moments with her now 42 year old daughter. Pauline

Posted by Pauline W, 12/03/2010 12:19:05 PM, on Mandurah Mail
In ref to Mothers looking for answers after losing babies 11th March edition. .

I also lost my beloved first born on my 17th birthday 1973, my preciuos daughter taken barbarically by this evil practise of forced adoptions.

I was told heaps of lies, one being since I was a minor I had no rights.

Imagine my horror years later to find I did have rights.

I was the sole legal guardian of my baby. Not the Nuns, Doctor, midwife staff or churches.

I was denied all human rights.

I was prevented from even seeing or holding baby by the Nuns in the unmarried home I was sent to for supposedly my own good.

I was leaking milk when I asked the nuns to take me to my baby so i could fed her.

I was told yet again its not your right.

I was then given tablets to dry mymilk up, and my beasts were tightly binded.

Like Sue I most likely will be haunted for life by my babies cry, as they snatched her from the minute she was born.

Thanks so much Sue, and David Templeman our children need to know the the truth , and that we also wanted and and loved them finally we are being acknowledged for the noble brave and loving Mothers we are. Judith Hendriksen Albany.

Posted by Judith, 13/03/2010 10:33:04 AM, on Mandurah Mail

post a comment


Screen name  *
Email address  *
Remember me?
Comment  *
 
We invite and encourage our readers to post comments. Comments are moderated and will appear as soon as our editor has approved them. When posting comments you agree to be bound by our Terms and Conditions.
Adoption horror: A local woman whose story was told in parliament by Mandurah MLA David Templeman has welcomed the news that an apology is set to be made to victims of a past adoption policy which left families shattered.
Adoption horror: A local woman whose story was told in parliament by Mandurah MLA David Templeman has welcomed the news that an apology is set to be made to victims of a past adoption policy which left families shattered.

Most popular articles

1) Apple iPhone 4 32GB43 plans 1%
2) Apple iPhone 4 16GB44 plans 7%
3) HTC Desire4 plans 3%
4) Apple iPhone 3GS 8GB33 plans 1%
5) Sony Ericsson Xperia X10 Mini Pro37 plans 1%

Mobile Phones | Broadband Plans

Get the best deal at Fairfax Digital - Rural Press



Mandurah Mail







Weather brought to you by:

Weatherzone

Navigate

Classifieds

More Ways to Read

Front Page

Current Issue
Privacy Policy | Conditions of Use | Advertising Terms | Copyright © 2010. Fairfax Media.
 SEND...
 SAVE...
 SHARE...